Northampton Press

Wednesday, December 12, 2018

Respectfully Yours: The gift of re-gifter

Friday, December 7, 2018 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn, I’m not trying to take the easy way out, but I have received several gifts over the years that I have no intention of using. I am considering re-gifting them this year. When I ask around, I get mixed answers about this. What’s your opinion on re-gifting?

Dear Reader, At one time it was considered poor taste to re-gift. Today, however, it has become widely acceptable.

There’s nothing wrong with thoughtfully passing along an item that you yourself won’t use to someone who will appreciate it.

Respectfully Yours: holiday-card etiquette

Friday, November 30, 2018 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn, My mother has always handled sending out the holiday cards. Now that I’ve moved away from home, I’m sending cards for the first time. What is the basic etiquette on sending out holiday cards? And, if someone I overlooked sends me a card, do I need to send one back?

Dear Reader, The ins and outs of holiday-card etiquette is one of those little things in life that can seem overwhelming.

Respectfully Yours: Small talk

Wednesday, November 21, 2018 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn, A couple of weeks ago I attended a baby shower for a friend. I did not know most of the people there. I found myself watching everyone and not talking. I normally am not at a loss for words with my friends and family, but in this situation I was totally out of my comfort zone. I did not want to come across as disinterested, but I felt awkward. Do you have any suggestions about how to engage in small talk?

Respectully Yours: Doors of kindness

Friday, November 9, 2018 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

Why do some people not say, “Excuse me.” or “I beg your pardon?” When I am standing in line in a supermarket or drugstore, someone will rush ahead of me to ask the clerk a question. They never say, “Excuse me.” When I go to the bank or restaurant, some people never hold the door for other folks. What is going on with this world?

Dear Reader, Phrases go in and out of style and very few people say, “Excuse me” anymore. It appears many have lost a general sense of respect toward each other and consideration is becoming extinct.

Respectfully Yours: Bus passenger’s cold

Thursday, November 1, 2018 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn, I recently took a bus trip to New York City. The bus was packed and I was seated before the long line of passengers piled onto the bus. The seat next to me was available and a woman sat down next to me. As soon as the bus pulled out, I noticed she had a cough and head cold. I knew I was in for an unpleasant bus ride. I worried that I would catch her cold. Why do people travel when they are visibly sick? What do you recommend I do if this happens again?

Dear Reader,

Respectfully Yours: Sunday-best

Friday, October 26, 2018 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn, I’ve noticed for years now that people don’t bother to get dressed up to attend church services anymore. When I was a child, putting on nice Sunday clothing was expected. I know that I am not alone when I say that I grow weary of seeing people come to church in clothes that they would wear to clean out the garage. Why don’t people wear their Sunday-best to church anymore?

Dear Reader,

Respectfully Yours: Voicemail messages

Tuesday, October 23, 2018 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Social News

Dear Jacquelyn,

Leaving a voicemail message makes me uncomfortable. I don’t know what to say and how much information to leave. Many times, when I hear the dreaded recording, I just figure, I’ll try again later when they’re there. When I do muster up the courage to leave a voicemail message, I tend to stumble a bit or I feel like I’m rambling on. How much information do I really need to leave? Any tips would be appreciated.

Respectfully Yours: College roommate

Thursday, October 11, 2018 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I’m a freshman in college and this is the first time I’ve had a roommate. I’m having trouble adjusting because we have drastically different social lives and study habits. Our dorm room is small and we can’t seem to get out of each other’s way. What can I do to survive living with my roommate?

Dear Reader,

First-year college students like you have a lot on their minds: making new friends, navigating the campus, and choosing a major.

Respectfully Yours: Barking dog

Friday, October 5, 2018 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn, My neighbor’s dog barks periodically throughout the day and it’s getting on my nerves. I don’t want to disrupt a good relationship between my neighbor and me. What can I do?

Dear Reader,

Dogs may be man’s best friend, but when your neighbor’s dog won’t stop barking, it can become a nightmare. There are some things you can do to regain peace and quiet without starting a war with your neighbor.

Give your neighbors the benefit of the doubt. There’s a possibility they don’t realize their dog is barking so much and aggravating you.